Hating/Disliking people

Sometimes, some of us, when we dislike someone, we find reasons to justify our dislike. "She does this, she does that"... But the truth being, that our dislike/like should be independent of that...
Yes it is true that sometimes people DO things that hurt us/show their ego, so we end up wanting to keep our distance/disliking them. I totally understand how we all want a nice life, and do not appreciate bullies/users/snobbish attitude. It's perfectly okay to want to avoid someone who doesn't mind walking all over you.
But sometimes, there is another angle of 'a tinge of jealousy' kind of dislike, it's like competing with the other person's ego, and trying to prove that they are 'not nice' compared to us. The other person would have really not done anything interfering with our life, they live their life, nor do they do anything immoral, but still, we find it in our heart to criticize their life & dislike them. Just because we have simply decided not to like them, and we need to justify this dislike by picking at their idiosyncrasies... This list of idiosyncrasies/lifestyle points can be all kind of harmless stuff- like eating at odd times, waking up late, having a loving husband who does most of the housework, being too modern with clothing, being outspoken, not being fond of a particular cuisine, the list is endless, the hater/critique can come up with whatever suits them, it is usually the silliest of things...
They don't realize that the problem is within their own head, within their own limited perception...
Just because someone lives their life their way, doesn't mean they deserve your criticism & don't deserve the life they lead.

My wisdom teeth :-(

I don't know how much wisdom my teeth are giving me, but one in particular is giving me a lot of pain and throwing life haywire... :-(
It hurts into my ear, my jaw, the neck, head, causes a sprain... :-(
It's the most terrible thing, triggers a migraine... And throws life haywire... I think I already said that... :-)
And I think I'll need some surgery for this one, my gum is kind of swollen and the tooth doesn't show, seems to be pushing to the side instead of pushing up, which explains the ache...
God, may God not give such pain even to an enemy...
Some days feel depressing, I feel like I am just a pain machine... My trash can knows how much Panadol I have swallowed over the last three months...
Meanwhile I sing praise of Pranayamam: अन्यथा शरणम नास्ति, त्वमेवं शरणम मम.  (Translates to something like- 'Where there is no other other remedy/help, you are the only one I can turn to for protection').
(Google doesn't let me place 'हलंत' where needed, since it is the limited Hindi script and not the full Sanskrit version of Devanagari.)

Free Advice

I remember reading in Bhagavad Gita that Krishna tells Arjuna never to give unwanted advice... Nobody appreciates it.... It's true, if you give unwanted advice, you'll only kill the relation and incur some bad vibes, while the person continues doing what they like...
Of course, it would be a different matter if we are in the position of duty/authority to dole out such advice.. Parents can't watch children do wrong things and not advice/correct them...
But generally, between friends, unwanted advice never works out.

But in my life, I have even come across people who actually ask you explicitly for your advice, but then still have ego problems/hatred for you if you say something they don't like. Now that is a very weird situation. I find it difficult to lie. I don't like to lie. So if someone asks me for advice/input, I can't just mislead them so that they love me but ruin their life. I would rather speak the truth & give the warning when asked.
But sadly, some people don't know what they want out of life. They have a tremendous ego which needs self-gratification. So when they ask for advice, perhaps there is an underlying presumption/desire that I should sing the music that they like to hear. If I say something different, they are ready to kill the relation, since their selfish self is more important.
I do not really expect them to adhere to my advice, it is 'take it or leave it'.  So I would be very happy if they can just leave it and stay normal. But for them, they have to crush it, dissect it, talk stupid emotion, and finally get angry/guilty/jealous/egoist/revengeful/competitive (I do not clearly understand the emotions involved) because deep inside them, they know I am right..
I have never harboured an ego of 'Yay I was right all along', but I do realize that the other person develops an inferiority complex of 'O my God how dare she be right'....
This kind of situation is very stupid, very shallow, may God never place anyone in this kind of situation...
It is painful to watch a loved one do stupid things, when you know that you are wiser/right, and you know that they will hurt themselves in the coming time..
Such a person is like a spoilt child, it is amusing to watch them try to fly off to heights with their ego inflated like a balloon. And you can actually see them travelling right into the sharp pin of life...
Such a person is like a spoilt child, only that they are much more difficult to deal with, and the stakes are higher in their life. God knows whose lives they crash into a doom along with their own. Only that when an adult knowingly behaves like a spoilt child, they may be thought to be shameless selfishe entities.