Men on women: Women are thinkers?

There is this famous phenomenon, very funnily portrayed by Russell Peters, about how when a woman asks a man what he's thinking, he says, "nothing", and she can't believe him, because women are incapable of resting their minds. :-)
Also, it goes on to say, that when a man asks a woman what she's thinking, and she says, "nothing", what she means is, "I am thinking something and I want to be coaxed & cajoled by you into telling you what I am thinking.".
That was funny indeed.
But I have often wondered, in a serious relationship context, why do women do this? Why do we not want to tell men when we are thinking about something that bothers us? Are we seeking attention, do we want to be coaxed and cajoled into telling them?
Well, it really depends on the situation. Russell Peters is indeed right about some women, they love to stay depressed, they blame everyone else for all their problems, they strongly  believe that God doesn't give them what they want. However, they don't have a moment's gratitude to thank God for what they have, since they want more more more. So in the pursuit of attention, they do these things of coming up with imaginary illnesses, a kind of hypochondria, or thoughts, that they won't readily disclose to their man, but yet, they will make him hang onto it... :-)
However, there is another section of women, who don't tell the man what they are thinking, not because they want more attention/persuasion, but because they sincerely don't want to share their thoughts.
The point is simple- when something bothers us, we tell the man what bothers us. But, what if you give up hope of any possible change? Not that we want a change, but what if the man doesn't even sympathize or acknowledge that something is wrong? What if you get a lecture about how to live life right, how to change your mind, how to tailor your thinking, how you are wrong in your perception?? Okay, sometimes, you can hold on patiently and try to understand, because a relation is all about two way communication, adaptability, readiness to embrace change. But sometimes in a relation, over time, you start noticing the pattern- every time you complain about something you don't like, you get a lecture about how your perception is wrong, how your thinking is at fault, how you are petty minded or money minded or childish, unfair, how your lifestyle was the wrong privileged/pampered one, and how the man's thinking is the most supreme, most unbiased, most rightly thing on this earth & beyond. Whereas when the man tells us a problem, we never let anything or anyone come between us.
So, the pattern noticed is, if you have a problem, you are sad with it. But if you try discussing it, you get a lecture on yourself, your problem anyway remains in your life. Furthermore, you are lectured into believing that the problem is in you, the problem is with you, the problem IS you. So, you don't even get sympathy.
Now, how far would a woman like to discuss her problems in such a situation?
Had I been in this kind of position, naturally, I will start saying, "Nothing" if I am asked if something is bothering me. It is because I know that there is no plan whatsoever to make me feel better materially or emotionally. So, I would prefer to be alone in my mind & heart, rather than pour out my side of the story, because all I will get is a demeaning lecture. Arguments don't lead you anywhere in life beyond a point. So if you love someone, you realize, it's better that you stay unhappy thinking your own thoughts, let him at least be happy, that is definitely better than a discussion which makes both of us unhappy, doesn't solve the problem, and further exposes the chasm & the reality- that nothing can change in my life, he doesn't really care about my happiness. His idea of making me happy is by giving me a lecture on how to change my thinking.
I can't give him a lecture, because whatever crappy family values/perceptions on life/theories on dealing with situations/balancing relations that he inherits are not at all crappy, whereas I have got all of mine wrong...
Beyond a point, it doesn't feel good to be repeatedly told that whatever problems you experience are all in your head, it starts feeling like everything about you is wrong, that he wants you to change to conform with his social inheritances.
When a man reaches that stage of quickly routinely dismissing your feelings, different women react differently. Most start shutting up, avoiding confrontations, minimizing display of sadness or frustration. That is when the "I am thinking nothing" starts. Surely, when you are sad, you don't want to let the man know what you are thinking, if you are sure that you will only get a lecture dissecting your entire thought & desire process, so that you end up even more lonelier & rejected than you did earlier.
Slowly with time, if there is something a woman doesn't like about a situation, she starts going quiet, she won't even bother to voice, "I don't like it", she will stay shut up. Because when you have a choice between "Voice it & not only will your world not change, you will feel depreciated & written off" and "Keep quiet, at least let him enjoy his life", slowly you start choosing the latter.
It takes months for a woman to notice the pattern of emotional dismissal that men employ. She thinks for months, and one day, decides to begin withdrawing.
Unfortunately, men don't notice these things, they are happy as long as their emotional goals are met and there is peace.
This is how most men are, and this is why some women transform into this kind of "Nothing" creatures.
There is another peculiar reason why women end up bottled up. I have observed some women who really are true 'pativratas', they bottle up their emotions/desires/reactions because they want their husband to be happy at any cost. So on the outside, the lady is calm & quiet, the epitome of patience, the personification of Sati, but on the inside, they are so lonely & sad, they just wait for an opportunity/person to pour out all their sadness. And I wonder, wow, her husband doesn't know how much she's hurting... I am not sure of how their marriage would be if the lady were a loud mouth frank talker like me!! But I do hope that she doesn't suffer the 'menopause syndrome' later in life, when all bottled up emotions explode in a colossal gush. Sometimes these women have some guilt deep inside their heart, some feeling of having sinned, some regret... So they hope that their secret sins will get washed off if they suffer patiently, and that they deserve a life of compromise as 'payment' for their karma/past misdeeds/better future/long life of husband/children, etc.
Of course, my theory doesn't hold much water in American/modern European societies where there is not as much social pressure. The issues I mentioned are especially unique to some illiterate/backward parts of eastern cultures, where a man doesn't live for his woman, but for his parents and his ego. While a woman is expected to cut off the last vestige of her self-respect & desires in the quest to eliminate her ego, transform her thinking and take marriage as a rebirth. Urban India is not this way, it is on the fast track to embracing western styles of living, let us see if it makes the people any happier?