I am surprized at how the new India is turning out, how the culture is evolving in the new generation. They find it super cool & very forward to have love affairs. Pre-marital affairs are no problem in this society, everyone has a right to live their life the way they want...
Okay fine...
But when it comes to 'mistakes' in a marriage, they are full of despair, remorse, frustration or embarrassment (a kaleidoscope of emotions that I noticed) if they have an early unplanned pregnancy.
I know there is no link between having an affair and having a pregnancy...
And here, I am not even trying the pro-abortion or anti-abortion lobbies...
I just wonder, that how is it okay for you to go around having a romantic fling, but you are embarrassed of announcing your baby to the world even while in a wedlock???
A baby is somebody who has no fault, it comes into this world only because of what you do, and it is still your baby... It may be unplanned, but how can you make such a tiny being feel unwanted? And feel embarrassed about announcing it to the world? And resent its presence because of your own uneducated careless stupidity?
People don't make fun of those who have affairs, it is super okay in this modern Indian culture. But people make fun of those who have a child early on in their marriage....
I remember a line from my childhood, "Shame shame puppy shame", God knows what the "puppy" was about...
But shame shame puppy shame is what I feel about this kind of coolness. It is called a depraved society.
Here again, I am not trying to link up affairs with pregnancies. There is no logical link. But I talk of these two issues, because I noticed that most 'forward' people find the former totally tolerable & exciting (in fact, it deserves an applause), whereas the latter is nearly shameful... God, dear very forward head, how were you born??? Because your mom got pregnant right??? So what is so embarrassing about that?
And since when did the institution of "Marriage" become such a dustbin? Marriage is boring, affairs are the in-thing, babies are embarrassing... Weird world some people spin up for themselves. For if you can't be proud of your own clot of blood, what more emotions can you ever feel? Even if not proud, perhaps overwhelmed, confused, but how can one be very upset or embarrassed and make a tiny thing feel unwanted?
God's ways are unfathomable, He pushes unwanted kids down the throats of ill-prepared we-are-not-ready-for-this people, but there are those who desperately want kids, and they can't have any, they face another lonely trauma that I can't talk about since I don't wholly comprehend it.
Here I am not trying to glorify motherhood, I totally understand that there are those of us who don't want kids... That is okay too, just being responsible with whatever we do in life is enough.
There is a certain problem with writing on this kind of topic- the abortion lobbyists will think I am trying to make a pro/anti abortion point, the feminists will think that I am slinging mud at those who don't want kids, everyone might think up all kind of stuff..
But my question remains- what is the definition of 'forward/open mindedness', does it mean 'marriage is a headache, everything outside of a marriage is exciting, all the responsibility that comes with marriage sucks'.......
And why is it embarrassing to announce a baby soon after marriage?
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