Sometimes, some of us, when we dislike someone, we find reasons to justify our dislike. "She does this, she does that"... But the truth being, that our dislike/like should be independent of that...
Yes it is true that sometimes people DO things that hurt us/show their ego, so we end up wanting to keep our distance/disliking them. I totally understand how we all want a nice life, and do not appreciate bullies/users/snobbish attitude. It's perfectly okay to want to avoid someone who doesn't mind walking all over you.
But sometimes, there is another angle of 'a tinge of jealousy' kind of dislike, it's like competing with the other person's ego, and trying to prove that they are 'not nice' compared to us. The other person would have really not done anything interfering with our life, they live their life, nor do they do anything immoral, but still, we find it in our heart to criticize their life & dislike them. Just because we have simply decided not to like them, and we need to justify this dislike by picking at their idiosyncrasies... This list of idiosyncrasies/lifestyle points can be all kind of harmless stuff- like eating at odd times, waking up late, having a loving husband who does most of the housework, being too modern with clothing, being outspoken, not being fond of a particular cuisine, the list is endless, the hater/critique can come up with whatever suits them, it is usually the silliest of things...
They don't realize that the problem is within their own head, within their own limited perception...
Just because someone lives their life their way, doesn't mean they deserve your criticism & don't deserve the life they lead.
Yes it is true that sometimes people DO things that hurt us/show their ego, so we end up wanting to keep our distance/disliking them. I totally understand how we all want a nice life, and do not appreciate bullies/users/snobbish attitude. It's perfectly okay to want to avoid someone who doesn't mind walking all over you.
But sometimes, there is another angle of 'a tinge of jealousy' kind of dislike, it's like competing with the other person's ego, and trying to prove that they are 'not nice' compared to us. The other person would have really not done anything interfering with our life, they live their life, nor do they do anything immoral, but still, we find it in our heart to criticize their life & dislike them. Just because we have simply decided not to like them, and we need to justify this dislike by picking at their idiosyncrasies... This list of idiosyncrasies/lifestyle points can be all kind of harmless stuff- like eating at odd times, waking up late, having a loving husband who does most of the housework, being too modern with clothing, being outspoken, not being fond of a particular cuisine, the list is endless, the hater/critique can come up with whatever suits them, it is usually the silliest of things...
They don't realize that the problem is within their own head, within their own limited perception...
Just because someone lives their life their way, doesn't mean they deserve your criticism & don't deserve the life they lead.
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